I have read many books and have had many chats with young/new mothers. Along the way we hear so many things about being a parent. Here are some tips that I have found very helpful along the way with our little guy. Some may not be news to you, but you may be surprised by others.
Let me know your thoughts and if you have any tips that our MOM community should know.
1) Allow your child to struggle. Don’t rush in to help your child when they are struggling to get something or do something new to them. Allow them the time to figure it out for themselves. Tell them ‘ you can do it, don’t give up’ Impress upon them the idea that anything is possible if you don’t quit. This will help develop independence and problem solving skills that will only help them be more successful later on. Also the endurance to continue through struggles in life.
2) Let them get dirty. Try not to let the squimish things like bugs and spiders or centipedes get in your way of exploring with your child. Discover the little things and emphasize the incredible world of the tiny nature below our feet. Get down in there and let them dig in. Magic will happen in your child’s mind. Make-believe and creativity will all flourish as they explore.
3) Don’t panic if your child breaks a bone. It may be the best thing to happen to a child at a young age. Getting an injury as a young child will let them know they are not invincible. The idea that they are unbreakable is more threatening as they push the boundaries when they get older. Every time your child ‘falls’ and gets back up is a time that strengthens your child’s character. The break will heal, the lesson will last.
4) Be consistent and firm. The more a child, especially young ones, can rely on your response they will be calmer and more predictable. When a child gets mixed reactions or unclear consequences, he feels unstable and acts out. Being firm can sometimes take longer and be more difficult, but long term benefits will be worth it.
5) The best things to help build your child’s immune function is to clean him less. The more allergens that a child is exposed to, the stronger his immunity will be. Our Dr. suggested that our son be exposed to pet dander & dirt. He told us of a story the children in Sweden hardly had any peanut allergies, and they had tied it to their version of MumMums was a peanut base rather then a rice base.